When my children were learning to ride bikes this is the mantra we would repeat for them. In the videos of their first successful two wheeler rides you can hear them whispering to themselves, “push, balance, steer, push, balance, steer.” It became the magic words that propelled them onto two wheels.
I hear it in my own head when I feel like I am on shaky ground. It has become my own mantra, my own magic formula for reminding myself what I really need.
Push: We need to apply effort in our lives. Some days the effort can be just getting out of bed. It requires effort to sit down and meditate every day, or go to a yoga class or exercise. Even being polite especially to those we love most can be an effort. Sometimes, it is the effort of not listening to our own defeating chatter, or doing something that scares us. If you push too fast or far, you will fall, but if you don’t push at all you won’t ever move forward.
Balance: We all use the word, I am not sure we know what it means. To me balance means mostly follow the rules, but maybe break them a little every day. Balance means sleeping when I am tired, and eating when I am hungry, snuggling when an opportunity presents itself, and taking every chance I get to make sure I am plugging in to my life. Balance means showing up to the people who care about me, including myself. The road underneath me is always changing, balance means not thinking it will all be smooth and flat.
Steer: Being in the moment does not mean that there is no plan for tomorrow. We need to steer ourselves along a path. We don’t meditate to become awesome meditators. We meditate to become better human beings. We shouldn’t do yoga so that we can be at the front of the class in tight pants balancing on our noses. We should do it so that we are connected to our breath and body. We shouldn’t just fill our lives and hearts with people to avoid loneliness. We should fill our lives with relationships that uplift and encourage us. When we are steering ourselves in the right direction anything is possible. When we aren’t we end up on our asses by the side of the road.
Push, balance, steer, push, balance, steer, push, balance, steer….When you feel yourself wobbling, say it a few times, and you will be back on the road in no time…